By Anitra Brown. Sensual massage is an effective way to build intimacy and closeness with your partner. The idea behind sensual massage is that you are giving pleasure through touch to your partner. One person is the giver and one person is the recipient.
It's important to keep that in mind. If you offer to give your partner a massage just to get something started, it's not really a massage. It's a line that might not work the next time! Since the two of you are in a consensual relationship, the boundaries that apply in professional massage don't apply to sensual massage. That means you don't need to worry about draping or avoid intimate areas like the inner thigh or breasts.
But massage is a skill, and it's helpful to learn some basic massage techniques so that what you do actually feels good to your partner.
One way to learn basic Swedish massage techniques like effleurage is to take a class from a local learning center. Even better, you can also book time with a massage therapist to show you and your partner how to give a massage. They will show you the basic moves and forms of a professional massage. Once you have that, you can improvise and be creative, taking the massage in a more sensual direction that the professionals can't show you.
This fully illustrated book teaches you how to give a sensual massage at home. Basically, you'll get the best results when you learn how to massage, and then take it in a sensual direction. You can also hurt yourself trying. Here is the basic equipment you need to give a good sensual massage. Once you have the skills and equipment, try these steps as a basic test drive. It's important to understand that sensual massage is not offered in a professional spa. If you asked for a sensual massage at a spa, it will be interpreted as a request for sexual contact.
