For anyone looking to heat up their sex life, wax play is here for you. Temperature play could mean melting ice cubes on your body, freezing sex toys, and of course, dripping wax. In fact, you can perform wax play with yourself or with a partner, all in the comfort of your own home. But before you start dripping wax all over yourself, know the techniques and the tools you need to play safely.
Go in with a plan in place so you don't get burned That nice-smelling one you got as a gift years ago? Those candles burn at high heat and could cause burns. Howard says you need specific candles for wax play, which burn at a lower heat and are made for close contact with your body. You light the candle, wait for minutes, blow it out, let it cool, and then you're good to start dripping. If you want to level up to a hotter temperature, go for a soy-based candle.
Paraffin candles also provide an extra sting. And if you're looking for an alternative to massage candles, Howard says there are other wax items to burn, some of which you may already have in your home. Crayons and birthday candles are good to use, since they have low-burning temperatures. Before you start dripping wax all over yourself or a partner, you need to make sure it's the right temperature. Light the wick, then let the wax drip onto your forearm from six inches above. The greater the distance between the candle and your body, the less of an intense sensation; the wax won't be as hot by the time it reaches your skin.
The less distance, the more intense the sensation. As you explore the sensation of the wax, keep it away from your face, hair and genitals. Legs and arms are easy to reach places where you can apply wax on yourself or a partner.
Places like the stomach and thighs can be more sensitive, so proceed with caution. A simple system Howard suggests is traffic lights. Saying "green" means go ahead, "yellow" means pause and check in, and "red" means stop immediately. Once your wax is hot and melty and the temperature feels good, it's time for the main event! There are tons of ways to use wax during sex, including:. Make sure you have a towel and a cup of water on-hand to clean off the wax. If you didn't already swap massages with the hot wax, now could be a good time, Howard says.
