If you were hoping to add to his repertoire or experience, you will have failed, says Annalisa Barbieri. My husband and I have been together for six years. I married him when he was 18 and I was So I booked a holiday to Amsterdam with the intention of paying for a prostitute for him.
I felt this would be a safe option as it is a job and no feelings could develop. Plus he would know he had slept with someone other than me.
He said he felt nothing at all and it was very different and strange. There were a few things which struck me about your letter. You seem to have a very immature attitude to love.
Organised, booked, talked about together? Because if you had, this would take on a different flavour. But if you went ahead and booked a prostitute for your husband without asking him and if so, at what point did you tell him? As you were shoving him through the door? Presumably him saying no was an option? Perhaps there is a shared sense of insecurity, although you seem to be trying to secure the relationship by means of control. I also wondered if the prostitute was for you or for him?
If he waited for the right person to have sex with you and for marriage, that hints at someone with a particular attitude to sex which may not be one you share, but it should be respected. So to answer your question, have you done the right thing? Well, clearly, not. At the moment the relationship seems very driven by one of you. Every week Annalisa Barbieri addresses a family-related problem sent in by a reader. If you would like advice from Annalisa on a family matter, please send your problem to ask.
